Every relationship your are in you learn more about yourself and what you truly want in a relationship. You learn what to look for, what are immediate red flags, and how you think you deserve to be treated. Some relationships don't work out, but you may still be thankful you were in that relationship. Some don't work out and you wish had never gotten involved. It's important to know what a healthy relationship is. Susan J Elliot JD, M.Ed., a contributor writer for Psychology Today says there are 10 ways to know if your relationship is/ was good for you:
Healthy relationships are extremely important. If you are in any unhealthy relationships, it can take a tole on your daily life. When creating relationships with people there are things you can do to make sure it turns into a healthy relationship. Abigail Brenner M.D., a contributor writer for Psychology Today, has some tips on how to create healthy boundaries with others.
Going into a new relationship can sometimes be a little scary. This fear can come from past relationships you've been in or relationships you've seen your friends or family members be in. These fears can easily cause trouble in a new relationship, because you are not allowing yourself to be open in the new relationship. It is okay to be cautious of a new relationship but letting your fears completely take over can become a problem. According to Tina Gilbertson LPC, a contributor writer for the Psychology Today, says there are three main fears that can affect relationships.
In relationships it is important for each partner to be emotionally engaged. When one of the partners is not emotionally engaged, it can be hard to make the relationship work. When you are able to have a deep discussion with someone and feel like you are being heard, things in life will seem so much better. If you feel that your partner is not emotionally engaged there are few thing you can do, according to Barton Goldsmith Ph.D.
Relationships take a lot of hard work from both people involved. If one person is giving more than the other, or one has stronger feelings than the other, the relationship can get a little messy. Preston Ni M.S.B.A., a contributor writer for Psychology Today has a list of 10 reasons why relationships fail.
When people are so invested and immersed in their relationships it's can be hard for people to notice if they are in a toxic relationship. Sometimes it can take someone outside of the relationship to see if your partner is controlling. These kinds of relationships can easily sneak up on anyone. Andrea Bonior, a contributor writer for Psychology Today has a list of 20 signs that show if your partner is controlling.
Breaking up with someone can be a difficult process. No matter the reason for ending the relationship, it is never easy. Ending a relationship with someone can lead too physical and emotional consequences. There are a few ways to make the breakup a clean on and not a messy one. Alexandra Katehakis, a contributor writer for Psychology Today has a couple of tips to help achieve a clean breakup.
If you grew up in a family with addiction or with some sort of family dysfunction, then likely the boundaries among family members were either too close or enmeshed or they were too distant or detached.
What's difficult is that these are the types of boundaries that we carry with us into adulthood and end up having the same kind of relationships with our spouses and children. However, this doesn't always have to be the case. The benefit of participating in marital counseling or other forms of psychological therapy is learning about how to have healthy boundaries with those that we are in relationship with.