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Change Your Perspective by Identifying and Changing Your Negative Thoughts

When a person's mind is full of negativity, they may not see the world accurately. They might have a negative view of themselves, others, and life in general. However, that person comes to recognize that those negative thoughts and beliefs are not true and learns to change them, they can simultaneously learn to change their perspective. Their view of the world might get a little rosier, lighter, and happier.

7 Problems Every Couple Faces According to Therapist's

When a relationship first starts, there are usually very few problems. However as time goes on and you learn more about a person, what you like and don't like, this is when problems can arise. Over time you become more comfortable with one another, and you are more comfortable approaching each other about certain issue. According to therapists, these are the top problems every couple faces at some point in the relationship:

How to Make the Changes You Want in Your Life

There’s a quote by the famous artist Andy Warhol. He said, “They always say time changes things, but you actually have to change them yourself.”  And this is true – especially with the changes that are required in recovery from addiction. Any significant life change requires individual effort. If you want to transform your life from unmanageable to manageable, from chaotic to peaceful, from unbalanced to healthy, there are some things you’ll have to do differently.

What is your conflict management style?

We all deal with conflict differently. Some people are afraid of confrontation and therefore avoid it entirely. Others charge right in and make a decision for everyone involved whether it's a healthy one or not. At the same time, there are others who are too accommodating in order to resolve it. Conflict can be hard for some people. There are both healthy and unhealthy ways of managing conflict too. The following is a list of the various conflict management styles and a description of each:

How You Can Get Your Partner to Talk to You

When a relationship first starts there may be no need to have difficult conversations. Or, these conversations may be easier to have because your aren't as invested and feel comfortable to say anything. However, as time goes on you become more invested in how the other person feels and some important conversations that need to be had, may not seem so easy. In some relationships the partner may avoid these conversations every time you try to start it. Whether your the own who has a hard time with these conversations or your partners does, here are some helpful tips to make your partner more comfortable with the more difficult conversations. 

How Do You Know if Your Anxiety is a Problem?

Everyone experiences anxiety at some point in their life. It is natural for human beings to worry about the safety of themselves and loved ones. There is a level of anxiety that is considered "normal," and there is a point where anxiety becomes a problem in someone's life, and makes daily tasks difficult. Here are some reasons to seek professional help for anxiety:

Proof that Mental Illness is Not Someone's Fault

Mental illness is a topic that a lot of people don't know a lot about. There is a stigma on mental illness, and people develop their views of mental illness based on that. A common mental health stigma is that it's all in the person's head, and if that it's all mind over matter. For some people this may be the case. However, for most people dealing with mental illness this is not the case. Lindsay Holmes, a contributor writer for the Huffington Post, has a list of some scientific studies, that suggest mental illnesses are a biological, physical condition. 

5 Ways to Help Someone in Emotional Pain

Dealing with emotional pain on own is very difficult. When there is emotional pain the help of friends and family is needed. However, some friends and family may not know exactly how to help a loved one with emotional pain. Dr. Sandra Hamilton, a contributor writer for the Huffington Post, has some helpful tips to help someone who is in emotional pain. 

Depression and Insomnia May be Related and Therapy Can Help with Both

Sometimes, when a person experiences depression, they may notice changes in their sleep patterns. For instance, some people might notice that their depression is causing insomnia. They may have a hard time getting to sleep or a person might wake up consistently throughout the night. On the other hand,  person might notice that they're sleeping too much. In this way, depression can contribute to both insomnia and hypersonnia.

5 Truths in a Having a Loving Relationship with Yourself

One of the most important relationships you can have in life, is the relationship with yourself. A lot of the time we forget to focus on the relationship with ourselves, and put more effort into relationships we have with other people. Sarah Bogdanski, a contributor writer for the Huffington Post says, "I'd rely on what everyone else thought and would constantly get everyone's opinions on something before making a decision." A lot of the time we are more concerned about what other people think rather than what we think of ourselves. Bogdanski says there are 5 great things about having a loving relationship with yourself.