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8 Things You Shouldn't Say to People in Recovery

When someone is going through recovery, it can be an extremely hard journey. If your have a family or friend that is in recovery you most likely want to support them and have them be successful through it all. However, sometimes it's hard to be a support system because you may not know the right things to say. Sasha Bronner, a contributor writer for the Huffington Post has a list of 8 things not to say to someone in recovery. 

  1. DO NOT ASK: How long have you been sober? 
  2. DO NOT ASK: When can you stop going to meetings?
  3. DO NOT SAY: I know how you feel. 
  4. DO NOT ASK: Are you sure you're and alcoholic/addict?
  5. DO NOT SAY: I didn't think you had a problem or  I had no idea.
  6. DO NOT ASK: Can you just stop? or Can't you just have one?
  7. DO NOT ASK: So can you never get high or drink again?
  8. DO NOT SAY: Joe's in recovery too! 

Click here to read why these are not the right things to say to someone in recovery, and for some alternative things to say instead. 


Chris Massman is a Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist. Chris' training includes Family Systems Theory along with numerous other theories. She believes therapy is an art and chooses the theory she feels will most benefit the individual sitting in front of her. Her specialty lies is in the field of Chemical Dependency and Addictions. Chris is currently seeing individuals, couples and families. Chris is a Clinical member of the California Association of Marriage and Family Therapists as well as the American Association of Marriage and Family Therapists. Chris has two locations including Tarzana and Agoura Hills, CA.